The Limits We Set
Yes, it’s actually five-thirty p.m. here. I was sitting thinking of what to blog about next and listening to No Boundaries by Adam Lambert, and it hit me. I got my new blog idea! I so love it when that happens.
So let’s talk. I love feedback btw so please leave a comment. I’m a green author, so green that I don’t know much really about anything. I do know that unlike in real life situations it takes more than twenty-one days to break poor writing habits. I know that as soon as I think I have something figured out, it’s really not figured out at all. In less than a year I’ve learned by mucking through it. Most publishers love their authors to already know the basics. Well, I just jumped in and decided to write with no formal training. The support of my editor has helped, but it’s my drive to excel and my optimistic personality that work for me instead of against me. The on line classes I’ve invested in haven’t hurt. There are a million
So let’s discuss limits:
The point, edge, or line beyond which something cannot or may not proceed
A confining or restricting object, agent, or influence.
I believe that after we’ve grown up, we become disillusioned. When once our imaginations had no limit or boundary, life and its many different paths have skewed us elsewhere. The magic isn’t as potent. We have lost our je ne sais quoi, that internal spark of essence—our oomph . Through no fault of our own we’ve grown accustomed to dictating verbally or mentally where we can or can’t go, what we can or cannot achieve. In truth we set ourselves up for failure before we’ve even begun. So then how do we realize the dreams we had as children were never actualized? How do we find that missing part of us that’s begging to be expressed?
We have to do like Peter Pan did— go back and find what’s been missing and BELIEVE that everything is achievable if we have the courage and drive to see it through.
We have to unlearn the blind spots in our peripheral vision and know that our self-esteem can blind us to our success. Self prophecy is another limit. If we put ourselves down consistently and lose the drive to go on we lose.
If we stress over hurtles, we lose and have turned friendly fire on ourselves. Not to mention why we write in the first place fades, the joy disappears.
If we don’t look at criticism with subjection, or let the criticism make us think less of ourselves we’ve done ourselves injustice yet again.
So how do we turn that process off?
We don’t set limits to our success
Don’t set specific time constraints on how high you wish to go. Remember it’s a hard business. Some get lucky right away others take the steady incline of upwards of twenty-years plus.
Be proud of the current level achieved and keep plodding along.
Don’t climb on a pedestal that isn’t achievable the instant we want it.
Instead of doubting our talent, we stand firm in the parts we excel in. The rest will come eventually.
For every negative thought we have about ourselves give three positives to counteract the broody mood.
Use our support systems, family, friends, no-not a glass of wine 🙂
Walk away. Realize some days are going to be crappy and on those days if you can’t break the funk, it does no justice to sit in front of a screen and will something to happen. We all have those days.
For each time I can’t crosses your mind, remember your parents or grandparents reading The Little Engine That Could, or get out a jar and commit money for each time you think it.
Look for the eternal optimist in yourself. If you don’t have it in you, you can rub on me like a scratch off sticker—not only do I smell good, I have enough optimism to go around.
I have met so many wonderful people in the writing community and I’d love to see everyone succeed past the limits they’ve set themselves on. So forget limits. Adam Lambert sung it best “There are no boundaries”
And now for my favorite quote, “If you cry over losing the sun, your tears will make it impossible to see the stars” ~Unknown